I’m so excited you have decided to find out a little more about me. Here are the facts: My name is Betsy Laughter. Wife to Ash, my partner in life and the most handsome, smart and (he says funny) man I’ve ever known. We have two ridiculously sweet and smart kiddos, Duncan and Izzy. I am proud to be their mother and so blessed that they don’t keep tabs of all my mistakes and so grateful they let me know when I’ve gotten it right.
This is where you get to decide if I am able to live up to my last name. Is she funny? Is it pronounced the way it is spelled and what is a Maternal Life Coach?
So… the quick answers are: I think so, not if you ask my father-in-law and the person who gets how you are feeling and can help you find your maternal backbone and hopefully the all-important funny bone as you navigate this phenomenal new role in your life.
Here’s how I got here. In 2010 my life changed… I became a mother. Everything I thought I knew about motherhood quickly went into to the diaper pail. Even with a Masters degree in Social Work, years of working with new moms in the hospital and being a neonatal intensive care social worker my world as I had known it flipped upside down and inside out. Not even the babysitting certification I earned when I was 13 prepared me for this. It wasn’t about being able to care for my son, that was joyful and what made the c-section scar worth it. The problem is that I never took into account the shift I would experience in my mind set, that I wasn’t the only one in my family experiencing this change, and that every role in my life would change as a result of his birth. I was no longer just a wife, daughter, sister, friend and colleague. I was my husband’s baby mama, my son’s chauffer to his grandparents, my sister’s opportunity to be the coolest aunt ever , the friend who cancelled on girls’ weekend and the colleague who wanted to go from fulltime to part-time and cried every day because she missed her baby. It took me months to even begin to feel like myself again and years (8 and a half to be exact) to truly understand the magnitude becoming a mother has on the rest of your life. Once I did get a grip on the idea of motherhood, I knew I wanted to do everything I could to help other mothers navigate this path that usually causes our GPS to indicate “recalculating” so I became a Life Coach and Which is a fancy way of saying I am the best cheerleader, motivator and BS caller a mother ever needed.
I am really excited that you are here because I thrive on helping women figure out who they are as a mother. I am going to remind you that even on the days you are half functioning on 3 hours of sleep and four cups of coffee, not only are you a great mom but you are an amazing woman! I’ve learned from trial and error that beyond the birthing classes and the baby registry there is something so much more important that we aren’t telling you. I am here to not only shed light on what life after baby is like but to give you the knowledge and tools that will help you ease into your new role and thrive as a mother in each stage of your kiddos’ lives.